100 Lessons in Confidence
- Sit up straight
- Speak loud and clear
- If you are a woman wear heels (no shorter than five inches)
- If you are a man wear a tux (a suit will do depending on occassion)
- Eye contact must always be given
- Do not use umms and arrs, you look less confident
I don’t think I want to know what number seven is; or the 93 which follow on. Sure these improve confidence, after all if you act the part, eventually you will trick your mind into believing you are the part. Fake it till you make it! Right?
I guess, but that is all just to make an appearance for the world.
Think of the time you met that person looking spotless with the straightest back, the shiniest shoes, that beaming fake intense smile that performs sensational life changing speeches, as if they attended dictionary classes directed by the Queen herself. Yes that person we see once and their confidence immediately draws us. So much so we want to be them.
What is the point of wanting to be someone else?
Little Case Study/Short Story
At university I went to a mentor/mentee networking event. There was a mentor who was wearing tracksuits, matching top and bottoms. The students immediately thought to themselves ‘I wouldn’t want him as a mentor’, not knowing he was in a senior position in his company. We all know there is a time and a place, but how great would it be if you could be accepted as who you are. This guy clearly knew who he was and he did not need a fancy suit to tell him. The fancy suit would be worn to let others know of he’s status. Here’s a quote:
“I do not care so much what I am to others as I care what I am to myself.”
― Michel de Montaigne
The number one rule to being confidence is to know exactly who you are and where you are going (and pushing towards that pathway). What is more confident than a person who has meaning and direction? Two quotes which speak for themselves:
“Let others determine your worth and you’re already lost, because no one wants people worth more than themselves.”
― Peter V. Brett, The Warded Man
“Well I am just going to try!” she thought confidently!”
― Carollynn Lemky, The Musical Mermaid
Confidence is just being you!
P.S. Bet you knew that already!
P.P.S. Bet you need a reminder sometimes too =)